8th Grade Odor and Sucking Out Loud: 17 Ways to Build a Better Youth Band, 4

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15. Leave them wanting more. Don’t expect a weekly band--especially at first. You don’t want your band burning out or your youth group growing complacent.

16. Foster Creativity. As your kids get to know the songs, they may have ideas for new arrangements. Let them run with it. And consider starting a songwriting group for your teens. You might have the next Chris Tomlin sitting on one of your broken couches just waiting to be encouraged. 

17. Teach bite-size biblical worship. Don’t force the kids to read Piper’s Desiring God. (You should, though.) Instead, teach as you go with small sound-bites. Use memorable phrases backed up by scripture. E.g. “This is not about us” (Psalm 115:1).

Bonus: Demoting Your Adults. The adult leader’s role should start and end with mentor/teacher. While she’s developing the students, she may need to be the lead musician carrying the band, or even the upfront worship leader. But the goal should always be to move them down the ladder to support musician and eventually cheerleader. I know this seems like a no-brainer. But remember, even though these full-grown musicians may look like adults – they’re still “musicians.” That means there’s an 8th grade ego that can emerge from time to time. Just gently remind them of the goal: STUDENT-led.

L.T.W.M. Part 3

Leave Them Wanting More is dependent on another well-worn axiom: Less is more.

I've perpetrated the opposite - more is more - on several occasions in my ministry:

More is More, Method 1: The Shoehorn
"The senior pastor's only giving me 20 minutes for worship through music? OK, we can fit seven songs in there." The result:

• The tempo of each song jumps 18 BPM.
• I'm clock-watching instead of worshiping, wondering how soon I should cut a chorus or two.
• When it becomes apparent that it's time to bail partway into the last song, I try to signal the team to end after the first chorus. I wonder if railroad workers get the same confused look in their eyes just prior to their train wrecks?

More is More, Method 2: The Way it is on the MP3
"Hey team, we're going to do this Hillsong tune just like they do it in this live recording"

So it's:
v, v, ch, v, ch, ch, 
48-bar instrumental/vocal ad lib building to a holy frenzy, 
quiet breakdown, bridge, bridge (keep building) 
bridge, bridge, (one more, even bigger...) bridge, 
breaking into a huge chorus, another huge chorus, 
huge tag to the chorus, even huger tag, 
and then a tag to bring us down to a quiet instrumental, 
begin singing the chorus nearly a cappella, 
then we'll start building back in for a repeat of the--

The congregation switched to "comatose screen-gazing" twelve bars into the instrumental. I think one guy passed out.

Is there anything wrong with the way they did it on the recording? No. But it fit their context. Many of our churches just plain haven't learned to worship with music that way yet.

With both methods, the more didn't lead to people wanting more. They just wanted the door.

Here are a few ideas to using "less is more":
1. Use the radio mix. If a popular worship song has made it on the radio, it's likely going to be less than 5 minutes. For example, Hillsong's Forever Reign radio mix is nearly 2 minutes shorter than the live recording. Ask yourself: how do they change the form? What repeats do they leave out? Always err on the side of "too short".

2. Under-plan to your time. Figure out how approximately how long each arrangement is. Add one minute to each song. Then add all the songs together. Do they fit, realistically, in your service? (C'mon now, be honest.) If not, cut a song.

3. Cut-down a song. Can't bring yourself to cut a song? Here's an alternative: just do the chorus and bridge of the song that's most well-known to your congregation. It can be great way to end a set or transition to a different feel.


4. Create an intentional "moment." With four songs planned instead of seven and an extra 3 minutes of margin built into your worship set, you're now able to plan for some lingering. Which song in the set would be best for that? Should you throw in an extra repeat or two? Or an quiet instrumental for scripture and reflection? Whatever it is, plan for it and practice it. That doesn't negate the Holy Spirit. It actually puts us in a better place to redirect if the Spirit leads.

So there's more that we can do to create more with less to leave them wanting more...umm, more or less. But I wanted to leave you wanting more.

L.T.W.M. Part 2

There are three myths that get in the way of leaving people to want more. 

Myth #1. Sunday morning is the only chance we get.
Unfortunately, not all myths are false. Our churches are often structured in a way that makes this myth a reality:

Numeric growth of the service. If growing my church means counting nickles and noses on Sunday morning, then I'm going do what I can to get people to come back. And entertainment becomes the focus. (By the way, I do think our services should be entertaining. But there's a difference...that we don't have time to get into...sorry.)

Discipleship. If my church is structured in such a way that growth in people's lives depends on coming to the Sunday service, then this myth is reality for me. I'm going to try way too hard to force feed people.

Evangelism. If my church's only means for evangelism is the off-chance that a non-believer walks in on a Sunday, then the sermon becomes a hard-sell and the closing song is meant to close the deal.

Myth #2. People know what they want.
I used to try to pack the service with elements I knew people like. But (suprise!) I found out that people are fickle. Take for example people's song suggestions. If I did every song that was suggested to me, I'd be singing 19 mid-tempo, soaring anthems every Sunday. In reality, if the average church does a three-song set in the vein of Mighty to Save or Revelation Song, most people will check out from exhaustion. Those powerful tunes lose their punch. And in the same way, if we do special music every week, it's not so special.

There's nothing wrong with special music, big anthems, illustration videos, testimonies or any other service element that people enjoy. It's about creating the right pace in the story. And the right placement (or non-placement) of great elements is key to establishing pace.

#3. Excellence grows a church.
Excellence grows a gathering, but God grows a church. If we want to leave people wanting more, it can't be more of our programs. Or preaching. Or music. We have to leave them wanting more God. Period.

L.T.W.M. Part 1

There are two ways a TV show keeps you coming back – characters and story.

Some shows don’t continue a main storyline from one episode to the next. Take any of the abbreviation shows: Law and Order SVU or LA, CSI, CSI:NY, CSI: Miami, NCIS, NCIS LA, OU812 – sorry, that’s a Van Halen album. All those shows have a back story that’s helpful to know, but not necessary. And occasionally they’ll have some thread of a subplot weaving forward, which almost always involves a serial killer nemesis of the main character. (This is helpful to know if you ever become a cop: at some point in your career you’ll have nut job who stalks you. Just giving you a heads-up…) While the stories of these shows are compelling, they wouldn’t have the same draw if viewers hadn’t already connected with the characters.

Parenthood (NBC) is a knockout example of both storyline and character. Ron Howard knows what he’s doing. The writing is awesome and the cast rocks. Not only do you get wrapped up in the storyline from one episode to the next, once you watch more than one episode (and you’re between the ages of 26 and 66) you can personally relate to at least one of the characters. And that’s where the writers and producers have us: they engage us for 43 minutes out of an hour then leave us in a way that we can’t wait till next week.

They leave us wanting more.

I’m wondering, when it comes to planning our worship service, can we use the concept of ‘leave them wanting more’?

I’ve been in churches where it felt like I ordered off the senior citizen menu. I left wanting a whole lot more. And I’ve been in others where there wasn’t room for more, but they kept shoveling it in. But then I’ve been in a few worship gatherings where I left feeling engaged. Filled up. Satisfied. But still wanting more.

What was it about those church services that left me filled, but wanting more. Is that even biblical?

Jesus seemed to practice “LTWM”. In Mark 1, Jesus was healing people left and right starting with Peter’s mother-in-law (he really did like to mess with Peter…). The next morning he got up early to pray, and it says,

Simon and his companions went to look for him, and when they found him, they exclaimed: “Everyone is looking for you!”
Jesus replied, “Let us go somewhere else—to the nearby villages—so I can preach there also. That is why I have come.” (Mark 1:36-38)

He left the crowds wanting more.

And look at his practice of preaching with parables.No bulleted solutions in PowerPoint. No closing KLOVE song to wrap up the message. So guess what the disciples did afterwards? They hounded him for an explanation (Matt 13:36) – they wanted more.

We’re going to explore the path of leave them wanting more over the next few days. But I’m treading lightly. Over one edge of this path is a shallow ravine of entertainment-driven worship. It’s easy to get in, and enjoyable while we stay. But when we exit, there’s no deep longing to return.

On the other side of the path is a dense, overgrown jungle. The inhabitants tell us their service has substance. That’s SO true. But there’s no rhyme or rhythm to all that substance. No decipherable path through it. And when we finally make our way out, we’re both exhausted and elated to have made it to the other side. It will take seven days to even consider entering again.

We have the greatest story (ever told), not to mention the most compelling Lead Character. People should leave wanting more. So what are we doing to mess that up?